How Do I Control My Crazy Thoughts?

Annielaurie

have you read eat, pray, love?

6:58pmMelody

I'm reading it now, why?

6:59pmAnnielaurie

i LOVE it and recognize myself in so much of it.

i need to learn those same lessons

7:00pmMelody

yes, it seems like a universal theme

7:01pmMelody

if you want to learn, and ask, a teacher (opportunity) arises, right?

7:01pmAnnielaurie

i would hope so.

i would like to start with the meditation...

7:02pmMelody

your children are there to teach you...in reflecting where you are...

7:02pmAnnielaurie

then we are all in big trouble.

7:03pmMelody

meditation is good...it's not a grandiose thing though.. just breathing.

LOL, what do u mean big trouble?

7:03pmAnnielaurie

i feel like i need to control my crazy thoughts...to calm down.

7:04pmMelody

that's the first awareness... to recognize that our subconscious mind creates our reality.

so you're there, girl!

it's so exciting that our collective consciousness is evolving at a rapid rate:-) so awesome!

7:05pmAnnielaurie

well there is that...

my subconscious is really good at letting me distract myself from doing the things i really ne0e

need to be taking care of...

7:06pmMelody

like?

7:08pmAnnielaurie

our daily stuff that i will just let go and ignore...or play back here on the computer, read...none of it getting the work done or being w/the kids..

7:10pmMelody

set aside time to be on the computer, time to indulge in yourself. If u know that at a certain time, you'll be on the computer, then you won't be as tempted to go on when the boys seem occupied, etc.

7:11pmAnnielaurie

that is a true statement. and a good point.

7:11pmMelody

what are some things that give you extra boost every day?

7:12pmMelody

i know that for me if I go on w/the day without taking care of my girlie needs, then I don't have as much energy to keep up.

7:13pmMelody

when i shower, i dry brush to detox, use a special handmade soap (with nice smell that I love), then have a cup of tea w/ all the fixings:-)

I focus on my needs first, read my affirmations on my mirror...

7:14pmAnnielaurie

you know, i most days there is no me.

7:15pmMelody

one big lesson that i learned is that no one's going to save me and no one's going to give me a medal for sacrificing and looking like crap...

only i can give self-love and then i feel better to give to my family.

7:16pmMelody

I've totally been there. thinking that if I have the day more organized, planned things for the boys, then it'll work out better...

7:17pmMelody

it's when i started to nourish myself, physical, mental, spiritual, things got better.

7:17pmAnnielaurie is offline.

7:18pmAnnielaurie is online.

7:18pmMelody

the more you make yourself happy, the easier things will get. it's a hard one for us mamas...

7:18pmAnnielaurie

it's the how to start that journey that i am missing...

7:19pmMelody

how about just finding one thing to make u feel good and start now? the journey starts with one decision.

7:19pmAnnielaurie

thank you Melody.

7:20pmMelody

you're welcome; hope it's helpful.I know, u just wanted waldorf activity idea.LOL

7:20pmAnnielaurie

well that's how it started out...you know how things go though...

7:22pmMelody

we don't give permission to ourselves to change, to grow, to make mistakes. Be good to yourself...it all starts from there.

7:23pmAnnielaurie

those are some hard things to overcome.

7:23pmMelody

Ha ha, you're so right. I work on it everyday:-)

7:24pmAnnielaurie

well i will tell you that you seem to have it all figured out.

7:24pmMelody

it's amazing that almost all of our "problems" stem from that issue...us not feeling loved.

thanks, learning everyday.

7:24pmAnnielaurie

hmm that is a profound thought.

7:26pmMelody

no one can help us though, we have to feel the love within us. I'm now realizing that my job as a parent is not to help my child feel better, but to help him to know that he has the power to make himself feel better. I'll guide him but it ultimately comes from himself.

7:27pmAnnielaurie

wow. so how does one do that if you are lacking that ability in your own self?

7:27pmMelody

same goes with my hubby. it's kind of freeing.

so yes, u want to work on yourself, to be empowered to know that truth.

7:29pmAnnielaurie

sigh.

whew..

7:29pmMelody

but u don't need to have everything figured out

7:30pmAnnielaurie

thanks Melody.

7:30pmMelody

just realizing that your children are their own spiritual beings and that they have their own purpose on this earth will free you.

7:30pmAnnielaurie

i get that.

but there's lots of other stuff that gets in the way.

7:31pmMelody

yeah, the other day, i was telling mason a story...

in the end, i was explaining how we're all connected..

and he said, i know mom, we're all connected, we're one. I know!

7:32pmAnnielaurie

7:32pmMelody

so I said, u know that already? how did u know?

he said he heard it all the time in kinder and 1st grade.

gotta love waldorf!

7:32pmAnnielaurie

hm, interesting.

7:33pmMelody

things get in the way and it's complicated.... that's how we view things, yeah,  but it doesn't have be that way.

it's a shift in thinking but it's possible...just know that it's possible. if you want to find out how, you can learn...

i'm writing a book on law of attraction parenting:-)

7:35pmAnnielaurie

excellent.

i will take one pls. 

7:35pmMelody

I'll save you one for sure:-)you're seeking and open so

oops, just letting u know that I was just there where u are...

7:37pmMelody

i thought waldorf would be the answer to everything, hence the teacher training, but when it didn't work for my family, i was so devastated. I was crying out to the universe...

i know, a bit dramatic, but it was like EPL, in her bathroom:-)

7:38pmAnnielaurie

i always appreciate our talks. thank you so much, and i do appreciate that you have been there...

i know there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. 

7:39pmMelody

i so appreciate connecting w/you!

7:39pmAnnielaurie

7:39pmMelody

the light is all around you, just shift your perception.

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7:48pmAnnielaurie

thanks!!